Episode 74 – How to add more self-confidence to your life!


When it comes to knowing how to add more self-confidence to your life, there are a lot of small action steps you can take to truly transform the way you go about your day. Self-confidence affects your everyday activities from asking for a pay rise, asking someone out on a date, standing up for yourself and truly getting ahead in life. Breaking new habits into small steps will allow you to pick and choose which actions you’ll implement into your day so that you don’t become overwhelmed. And remember-knowing is one thing, but doing is another!


Use positive words in your life

You may not realise it, but you might be using negative words or negative connotations. This can be both in conversation with others, but also negative inner chatter. Words have an incredibly powerful effect on the energy you vibrate. If you thought about the last time you were in a bad mood, you probably can recall that you just seemed to attract even more bad situations or negative people into your life. That’s because you’re an energetic match for them!


Without getting too Zen on you, we’re all made up of energy. You’ve probably heard about the works of Dr Masaru Emoto and his experiments, observing formations of different crystals in water. After showing various words, playing different music or prayer, he found the crystals would form in either beautiful shapes from positive energy or in a terrible mess from destructive energy.


This experiment shocked the world and proved a lot about the difference in energy vibration! So the next time you catch yourself using negative words, use a little punishment system much like a swear jar, or find a way to wind yourself out of this bad habit. Some great reads on energy attraction are:

  • Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
  • The Master Key System by Charles Haanel


Make a strengths list

Throughout your life experience, you know what strengths stand out more than others. So why not write down all the things you’re good at to boost your self-confidence! Once you’ve finished the list (and it will probably end up longer than you think) make a habit to look at that list every day. This will train your sub-conscious and in turn your self-confidence will rise.


Sometimes we dwell too much on our weaknesses and it can really affect our self-esteem. Society can place a lot of pressure on us to live or act in a certain way, or degrade us when we don’t achieve something. We all however have the choice to live the way we want to. You can write down reassuring phrases like:

  • People comment I’m really good at…
  • I’m a great husband/wife because…
  • I get a lot of compliments on…


Do what you love

If you’re good at something and you love it, then that’s going to really give your confidence a hit. That’s because you’ll feel purposeful, successful and happy with the path you have decided to walk. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself, or limit yourself to finding your passion in your career. While it’s great to get paid for your passion, if there’s something you really love doing outside of the office, then your energy will spread over into the workplace and make you more productive anyway.


If you’re younger and don’t have much life experience, get out there and try new things to find out what you love! Say yes to more things, because you’ll never know if you never go!


Once you find that thing you’re passionate about, they’ll be no mistaking the feeling, as you’ll know in your heart that’s what you’re here to do. It’s a great idea to journal at the end of the day, recording what you loved the most about each day, then try and create and repeat more of the same feel good activities.


Set goals

This ensures you’re doing more of what you love and what truly makes you happy. Once you set goals it gives you purpose and direction. This direction sets you down the right path and builds your self-confidence, because you’re able to set measures against those goals and see progress. Progress = confidence. Break goals down into actions and habits – these will be the stepping stones to your end goal.


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